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Since abuse is usually "HELP ME NOW" I am beginning the home page with help with abuse.You will have someone who understands and cares (been there, lived it), a friend who will help you learn and grow and become strong. 

“We all have possibilities we don’t know about. We can do things we don’t even dream we can do.” - Dale Carnegie

Abuse recovery has different steps:

     1. Recognize abuse

     2.  Decide to leave abuse.

     3.  Actually leave abuse

     4. Adjust to being on your own

     5. Begin the healing

     6. Live the future you deserve

If you are now or have been in an emotionally abusive situation, sometimes called narcissism, or having difficulty in a relationship, you can work through it to achieve the happiness and self esteem you long for.  It will also improve your health.

You will get:

-  Help getting respect and recognition from others 

- Healing from the pain of abuse 

- Healing of your self worth. 

-  Reminding that you have value.

- Emotional strength

-  Calmness in a stressful situation.

- A listening ear. My full attention is on you.

- Understanding. I’ve been there. 

- Someone who cares, to help you be the person you were meant to be.

- Self-awareness. You have a right to your thoughts and feelings.

- Emotional support when you think you’re losing your mind

- Encouragement and empowerment. Things will work out.

- Peace of mind.

- Guidance. creative ideas, tools and options for you to consider.

- Confidentiality

IF YOU ARE IN A PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE SITUATION GET HELP NOW!

Don't do anything without first consulting an expert on the subject. 

CALL YOUR LOCAL WOMEN'S ABUSE CENTER. LOOK UP THE PHONE NUMBER NOW AND KEEP IT IN A SAFE PLACE WHERE OTHERS CANNOT FIND IT.

DO IT NOW!

If  you think this is not serious, do a search on death by abuse. It will shock you how many people are killed because they did not leave an abusive situation. If your abuse is physical, leave now. If you have to live for a while in a home for abused women, do it. If you are dead, who will protect your children? 

If it is emotional abuse, keep an eye out for it moving toward physical, because abusers will become more violent as they lose control over you. They are not mentally capable of loving even if they act it for a while. look at the article on the characteristics of abuse. 

For financial abuse, go to financial help.

WHAT TO DO AND WHERE TO GO FOR HELP.

If you are in an abusive situation now, there are things you can do for help. Before you move or confront your physical abuser make sure you contact an organization that can help you plan what to do and how to do it. 

BELOW ARE A FEW OPTIONS: 

• Speak to a close friend you are certain you can trust before doing anything. 
• Do not keep texts that say anything about your contact or calls with someone who is helping you.
• Call 911 if it is an emergency. 
• Talk to a doctor, medical adviser, spiritual adviser, an attorney who works with abused people
• Call National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 1-800-484-3224 (TTY) En Español
• Call NJ2-1-1 at 2-1-1 or 1-877-652-1148. If you are using a rotary dial phone, please dial 1-877-746-5211. TTY users, dial 7-1-1 first, Chat now, go  here. Text us Text your zip-code to 898-211, Fax us: 973-887-4680, E-mail 
• Talk to a doctor, medical advisor, spiritual advisor, attorney who works with abused people
• How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship - HelpGuide.org 
• Order The Survivor's Handbook from the charity Women's Aid is free, and provides information for women on a wide range of issues, such as housing, money, helping your children, and your legal rights. 
• How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship - HelpGuide.org 
• Call NJ2-1-1 at 2-1-1 or 1-877-652-1148. If you are using a rotary dial phone, please dial 1-877-746-5211. TTY users, dial 7-1-1 first, Chat now, go here: https://m2.icarol.com/ConsumerRegistration.aspx?org=83449&pid=161&cc=en-US
  Text us Text your zip-code to 898-211, Fax us: 973-887-4680, E-mail
• Order How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship - HelpGuide.org https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm

I would like to know your most pressing need. Take a moment to tell me what is most upsetting  for you. What question do you unrelentingly search for an answer to in an emotionally abusive relationship or if you have come out of one and find that your emotions are still reacting to the abuse. Please fill out the form below. 

TOXIC, NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE

Emotional abuse is when someone controls your ability to make your own decisions through words meant to diminish you as a person or by emotionally making you bend to their will. Any time someone treats your thoughts, or feelings as unimportant, they are abusing you,  It damages your belief in yourself. Although it may become physical abuse, it is sometimes more dangerous. Your wounds are on the inside. You may feel like you have been beaten because of the way you were treated. You need healing. 

ANNOYING PEOPLE

If you are having trouble in a relationship that is not abusive, understanding how you naturally handle a situation and how the other person naturally handles the same situation helps you realize that you are okay. There is nothing wrong with you. Recognizing the way the other person naturally thinks means it is okay for him. It just means there is a clash. You begin to understand what is going on and can work things out. We can discuss your thoughts and feelings and get a clearer picture of a solution.

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

You were born with potential. You have talents and traits that will bring you happiness when you work with them, develop them, help others because of them. You develop understanding. You make healthy choices, achieve goals you want, recognize how much value you have as a well rounded person. When you are working on your heart’s desire, you have more energy, extreme satisfaction and happiness. Your life has meaning.

GO TO "ABUSE" PAGE FOR MORE INFORMATION ON ABUSE AND LIFE SKILLS PAGE FOR INFORMATION ON HOW TO LIVE A CONTENTED LIFE.

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