If you are involved in a divorce, you have many feelings and emotions to work through. Your joy is gone. You may wonder if you will ever be happy again. You could feel numb or cry all the time. You feel isolated and misunderstood. Even if you initiated the divorce, you are not immune to a wave of hurt or depression now and then.
Three things you can do today to help you through the pain of divorce:
Guilt: You may feel responsible for some aspect of the divorce. Have you been told that this is your fault, that you are destroying your family? Even if you want to stay married, do you blame yourself for putting your children through this emotional upheaval? You feel guilty and don't even know why.
Resentment: You feel angry for all that is happening to you. You may feel that someone else is deciding your future, that your life is out of control. People you thought were your friends have sided with your spouse and you feel betrayed. You feel like you wasted years of your life on someone who didn't appreciate you. You gave until you couldn't give any more.
Pain: You think about the future and it hurts. You think about the past and it hurts. Your dreams, your future, are dead. You wonder how you will get through this terrible time.
Confusion: You wonder how your almost perfect marriage could fail. You don't understand why your best wasn't good enough. You feel like you're going crazy. Everyone is giving you advice and you don't know which way to turn. Your emotions are on a roller coaster. Concentrating seems impossible.
Embarrassment: You feel ashamed when people find out that you are in the middle of a divorce. You feel like a failure. It's humiliating to tell your friends and family. You don't know what to say.
Fear: Are you afraid to be alone? How will you cope with the unexpected? You are afraid that no one will love you, appreciate you. You are afraid that no one will be there for you, take care of you when you get old, share sunsets with you.
Divorce is the death of a dream and a future. This is a difficult time for you. We can work together to develop a plan to sort out your feelings and reduce your stress. I will help you identify your options when making difficult decisions. I will help you gain control over your life. Through coaching, you will have a friend to listen and understand. Your life will have order and peace. When you need someone to care, I will be there for you. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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