good choices, communication, delegation, success, abuse, negative mind chatter, stress, boundaries

 You may think the following information does not apply to working in a company or running a business, but it does. Your attitude decides everything in your life. How you will live, how happy you will be is decided  by you, not circumstances, but you! 

I never liked driving over reflectors that divide the highways and tried to steer clear of them. I hit them every time. I was focused on what I wanted to avoid. When I concentrated on the empty areas (which, by the way is not easy) I had better results. 

How can we translate this concept into everyday living? We hear terrible things on the news that create fear, depression and hate. We see despair all around us. We can't control external happenings, but we can always turn it off. We also have a choice about how we control our reactions. Whatever we spend our energy on gets bigger. If we dwell on a particular fear, it will become a reality. Focus on something positive. Focus on hope.

The optimist says. . .

"Hope is both the earliest and the most indispensable virtue inherent in the state of being alive. If life is to be sustained, hope must remain, even where confidence is wounded, trust impaired." -- Erik H. Erikson

The cynic says. . .

"One day as I sat musing sad and lonely and without a friend, a voice came to me from out of the gloom saying,  'Cheer up. Things could get worse.' So I cheered up and sure enough, things got worse." -- Anonymous

These are our options. Positive thoughts, concentrating on what we hope for, give us positive results such as more control over our lives, better health and happier relationships. Negative thoughts give us stress, relationships suffer and we feel sick and unhappy. The brain takes its queue from our thoughts and believes we must want them to happen because we spend so much time and energy thinking about them. Our brain doesn't recognize this is something to avoid. 

Example: You're afraid of losing your business. You say to yourself, "I'm going to lose this business that I put so much time and energy toward. I know it. I'm afraid this will happen. This is on your mind day and night. Your brain hears, "This will happen." Because you are so tense, you don't do your best running your business and it fails. You say, "I knew this would happen. Your brain thought you wanted to fail. Then you wonder why all the bad things happen to you. This is called "self fulfilling prophecy." When you focus on something good, your brain works the same way and good happens. 

Act as though your thoughts are positive. Speak encouraging words. Make plans that show optimism. Don't dwell on negative reactions. This drains your energy.

"If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps life moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream."  -- Martin Luther King

I want you to try an experiment. This takes 2 people. Hold your hand out straight to your side or in front of you. You are going to resist any pressure from the other person when he pushes your hand down. That doesn't mean grit your teeth, brace your feet and fight it. It means a normal resistance to the pressure applied to the top of your hand. Now think, "NO, NO, NO, NO, NO as the person tries to push your hand down. You will see that it goes down easily. You had little energy to resist it. Now think YES, YES, YES, YES, YES. Notice that you now have more energy to resist the pressure. 

When you want more energy, think "yes." Think hope and faith and positive outcomes. Think about all the things and people for whom you are grateful. Recognize negative thoughts and immediately reform them into positive views. Soon it will be a habit. 

"Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish." -- John Quincy Adams

Concentrate on what you really want, create a plan and work it to make it happen and you will get the result you desire.  Take a look at  Goal Setting Basics.

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