1. THE CONTROLLING WOMAN
A woman goes to bars or runs into a vulnerable man, one who is lonely and just naturally wants sex. She plays up to him, offers sex, hooks him and dumps him. She knows how to spot him immediately. She butters him up, telling him how handsome he is, etc. He begins to think that he may have something here. After a few sexual encounters, she drops him. He will call her, text her, “I’m sorry. Did I do something wrong?” This man is very quickly addicted to the teaser. She gets a pleasure out of controlling him and watching him look helpless as he wonders what happened. She seems to get a lot of joy out of controlling men.
2. THE PERFECT WOMAN
A slightly different version is played out over a longer period of time. She meets him in a social situation or maybe at work. He doesn’t appear needy. She prefers a man who isn’t all that easy. She plays with him like a cat plays with a mouse. She gives him the impression that they might actually be compatible, that they may have a future together
They develop a relationship, but she makes it clear, it might not be permanent. She tells him that she loves him, but he needs to change this or that. His hair is too long or too short. She likes a beard, or can’t stand a beard. He needs to lose weight or exercise more. She says she loves him, but she doesn’t seem able to accept him just as he is. Her suggestions are subtle. He spends his time trying to please her. She may see another man, just enough of a relationship to make him jealous. This is her way to play one man against another. She keeps it going until she is tired of the game or she actually begins to really care about one of them. Sometimes, one or both of the men get tired of the game and call it quits. If he can’t live up to all her needs, or just wants her to love him just as he is, she pushes him away, just slightly to see if he will come back. There is a degree of control in the relationship with her doing most of the controlling. If he begins to take control, the relationship is dead.
3. THE AVAILABLE WOMAN
This is a woman who is usually beautiful and uses her body to get attention. She uses sex to continue the attention. She needs a man’s love and this is as close as she can get. Once she has his attention, she forms a relationship, except the men she picks really don’t want a relationship. They just want the sex. She may even know there are other women in his life and that is okay for her because she needs some form of love so badly. In this situation, it is difficult to know who is the teaser and who is the victim. Basically she is hungry for a man’s love and this is the best she can do. If she does find a man who wants to love her, she will sabotage the relationship because she can’t give or receive real love and it scares her and hurts too much to have him love her.
4. THE TROLLING MAN
This is a man looking for a vulnerable woman. This is very common. It may be safe to say that most divorced women have experienced this scenario. All he needs to hear is that she is either getting a divorce or recently divorced to know she is vulnerable and the prefect victim. She needs to feel that she has value. She needs some attention and someone to show her that she is special. She wants someone to care, to love her. That is often the main reason she left an abusive marriage. He seems to care. He will listen to her feelings and console her. She is hooked.
Only this teaser always has more than one woman. He likes to have a harem. Another women he can go to for sex if one is not available. He keeps them separated and most of the time, each doesn’t know about the others until he wants to test her to see just what she will put up with. And she may put up with anything. When she gets really hooked and wants more of a relationship, he dumps her and moves on to all the other vulnerable, available women just looking for someone to love them.