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of distress are change, time restrictions, interpersonal problems and
guilt. Too many changes in a short period of time, good and bad can cause
stress. Don't allow stress to become distress. The biggest cause of distress
is losing control of a situation, when you feel overwhelmed or unable
to handle a situation. It's when you're without hope. It will kill you
physically if you let it and it kills the spirit. Don't let it do that
to you. You have the choice.
a part of your brain that doesn't know the difference between what you
do and what you think you're doing. If you think unhappy, defeated thoughts,
your brain will do whatever it takes to make it come to pass. It's called
"self-fulfilling prophecy". However, thinking happy, pleasant thoughts
is much less stressful for you and those thoughts tend to happen, too.
The right side of the brain is creative and emotional. It brings about
whatever you believe in.
3 areas where distress gets a stronghold. They are your
your life is SIMPLE BUT IT'S NOT EASY.
How do you feel when you’re distressed? Do you want to stay in bed and
hide from the situation? Ignore your feelings. When you do something
you especially don't feel like doing, do it first and get it out of the
way and reward yourself for doing it.
Take 2 notebooks.
In the first one, write down all the negative feelings you have. Label
them at the top of the page.
is going on in your life
down the names of each member of your family
everything you want to say about that subject. When you're finished, take
it someplace private, read it out loud and then destroy it. This gets
some of your negative feelings out in the open and once you've written
about them, they tend to have less influence in your life. You'll find
your distress level immediately much more manageable.
What are some thoughts that discourage you? When you change
your thoughts, you'll find that your feelings will also change. Your thoughts
determine your feelings. Recognize a negative thought. Your mind is talking
to you all the time. Encourage yourself. Develop a support system. Have
people you can call to encourage you, to talk things out with who are
when you've done everything you can and you're still thinking about it.
Decide not to worry about something until you have to. If you have something
due next Tuesday, and you've done all you can, don't worry about it until
worry, create a plan. See yourself working the plan. Get a clear picture
of the results you want. Have a goal. Be very aware of your goal. Create
your workable plan to reach your goal.
In your second
notebook write down something positive you did or something nice that
happened to you each day.
do better talking things out. If you need someone, I'm here. Contact me
to set up an appointment.
TAKES 9 POSITIVES TO COUNTERACT 1 NEGATIVE
There are a lot of circumstances over which you have control.
When faced with a stressful situation, think about the worse possible
thing that can happen and how you would fix that. Whatever happens can't
possibly be that bad.
that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue."
Roger C. Anderson in the Rotarian
punching bag or a pillow to get rid of frustration
your personality style
with people. It creates a lot of stress to maintain a lie.
at work for information. Draw on their ideas and support.
relationships a priority. Pay attention to other's needs. Listen to
your personal feelings. Tell others how you feel.
quality time for others. Even If it must be scheduled, make sure it
is scheduled when you're not too tired.
on the positive in the people you live with, not on how they bug you.
Giving sincere praise, not flattery is essential in a healthy family
on future goals. Don't bring up the past. Emphasize mutual objectives
you can work on together
to new ideas. Open yourself up to new thoughts and experiences.
yourself healthy. Eat healthy food. Don't eat a lot of sugar or drink
a lot of caffeine.
can prevent depression and relieve distress
much sleep as you need
your soul with music
thing at a time
to requests that stretch you to the limit
for the car before the tank is empty. Get regular oil changes and
food, toilet paper and toiletries on hand so you never run out. The
same goes for postage stamps, paper and envelopes.
duplicate keys for home, car and office in secure locations.
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